Oral sex is a really important part of foreplay and can make a woman orgasm in its own right.
It’s
also a great way of priming your woman, which is a great way to reduce
the pressure of needing to last a long time during sex.
This article will teach you guys
how to give a girl oral sex properly, or more importantly help you work out what your partner likes.
It’s really important to remember that everyone is different, and what pleases one person might not do it for another.
The
best piece of advice is to get down to some trial and error. Remember
to communicate your desires and simply enjoy the process of getting to
know each other.
Us girls love receiving oral sex, and a text book
can’t really tell you exactly what will work unless you give it a go.
Once you’ve read some advice about what women want, test it out in
reality.
Whatever your partner finds pleasurable is exactly what
you need to be doing. Don’t just repeat a trick or style you have read,
heard or found worked on someone else.
Don’t rush in:
You
might not be the biggest fan of giving oral sex, or you may not know
exactly how to give a girl oral sex, so you tend to rush into it and try
and get it over with. What we want is for you to start slowly though.
Kiss
her lips, neck and make your way down her body until you are kissing
her inner thighs. Try and get eye contact as much as possible and
position yourself in a comfortably way that you can caress her breasts
from time to time.
The idea is to turn her on before you start the oral sex and make her tingle. A bit of teasing works really well here.
Build up gradually:
When
you begin to kiss and lick during oral sex, work your way in slowly
from the outside. This will make the feelings more intense and still
feel like you’re teasing her.
A slow build up creates a much better orgasm for us women.
Most
women are very sensitive to touch, including touch performed by the
tongue, so start gently and see what your woman wants. The clitoris in
particular is packed full of nerve endings so make sure you listen to
her signals.
Try not to rush into licking the clitoris but when you do, be gentle – especially if she’s not fully aroused.
Get creative with your tongue:
The
key to giving a woman good oral sex is to keep moving your tongue. If
you’re not sure how, keep it flat and lick up the entire vulva and
clitoris.
You can do an up and down motion or side to side, or a mixture of both.
If
you keep your tongue hard and only use the tip, especially in a sharp
flicking motion, then you’re denying your girl the softest, wettest and
smoothest part of your tongue.
It’s really important to use the
flatter and softer part of your tongue – especially at the start when
she may not be fully aroused and not ready for the additional pressure
and speed that the tip can bring.
You can try spelling out the
alphabet over different areas with your tongue – this keeps the tongue
moving in different directions. And don’t forget to change the pace –
get faster and more intense if she likes it.
The classic advice
with the alphabet techniques is that if you find a ‘letter’ that she
responds well to, then you can keep repeating that letter for a while.
You
might occasionally want to gently suck her clitoris, as the suction can
give a different sensation. Some women will like this, some won’t. And
even a girl that likes it one day may not the next day.
You need
to be ready to change, be creative, be flexible and keep working at
finding what tongue movements, pressure and speed work on a particular
girl, on a particular day in a particular setting!
And remember
it’s not just the clitoris you need to focus on. Draw that alphabet
large over the whole area, then medium and small around different parts.
Women enjoy the whole areas being licked, kissed and touched, so don’t
get caught up just on the clitoris.
Don’t forget about your hands:
When
giving a woman oral sex, try to get yourself into a position where your
hands are free to add an extra element. If you’re able to caress her
body and breasts while giving oral, then great.
You can also use
one hand to slightly lift up the ‘hood’ of the clitoris and reveal the
more sensitive part for your tongue to stimulate. Make sure you learn
where this is.
If you’re good at multi-tasking, why not add your fingers into the action and try to stimulate her G Spot?
Most
women enjoy the build-up so try to learn when she’s ready for you to
use your fingers as well to intensify the pleasure to the next level. If
you go straight in with the fingers at the start then you might ruin
the potential for an orgasm that a steady build-up brings.
Communicate:
It
won’t be easy for you to speak to her while you perform oral sex, but
listen to the sounds she makes. We women can be a bit shy, but generally
most like to talk and say what we like.
If your girl isn’t a
talker, check for signs such as heavier breathing, moaning and if she’s
holding the top of your head, she may grip harder as she’s closer to
climaxing.
Look for signals and go faster when she’s close to
climaxing, and know when to stop. By this point, your jaw may be aching
and your tongue might feel numb but persistence will pay off.
If
she’s enjoying it, then stopping as she’s building towards climax just
because you have neck ache or a sore jaw or tongue isn’t cool! If you
can take the discomfort, you may be more than rewarded by the knowledge
that you’ve given her an amazing orgasm…
Nothing beats a bit of
feedback so ask her afterwards if she liked it and she might offer some
tips to make next time even more intense.
Experiment with different positions:
Try
different techniques and see what works for you. Perhaps you’d like to
introduce some new positions (such as the 69 where you both perform oral
sex to each other at the same time or the man on top and in control).
Whatever
you do, mix it up and don’t make things feel like a routine. If she
doesn’t quite know what to expect, she’ll be even more turned on,
whether the oral sex is for foreplay or for orgasm.
Remember:
Hopefully
you’ll have gotten the message by now that the key in learning how to
give a girl oral sex is to not expect any one thing to work from one
time to the next.
You need to be flexible, creative and
responsive. If she doesn’t tell you exactly what works in words, then
you need to find out yourself by trial and error and observing her
responses to what you are doing.
Enjoy the practice, enjoy the
experimenting, and enjoy the feel-good sensation when you magically work
out exactly what she wants.